Aging with Grace and Excellence

Watch your mouth!! Haven’t we all heard that before? When I would get a little too sassy as a child or teenager, my mother was quick to say that. It would make me so mad because I really wanted to give her a piece of my mind! I wanted to be heard and she was cutting me off…..

This was really frustrating and often left me feeling like I wasn’t being heard. It never dawned on me that I was being disrespectful and that I needed to use different words.

As we move up the ladder of life, let’s be more conscious of the words we say to ourselves. Remember that saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!” While it is a clever statement and was designed to empower us, the truth is that words can hurt us! Some of the most harmful moments in my life were because of what someone said to me. As a dark skinned little girl, I was called Blackie often. It really hurt my feelings and didn’t make me feel pretty at all. I carried that pain with me for many years.

It’s bad enough when someone else calls us names. Let’s make sure that someone isn’t YOU. I recall getting my first grey hair and it rocked my world! My first thought was, “You’re getting old!” Then I got some crows feet and I was like, “Oh no…. This is how it starts.. Soon I will have wrinkles around my lips..” Then I noticed my hands weren’t as youthful in their appearance. And everytime I noticed another change in my body, I took it as a sign that I was going downhill fast.

Instead of using disempowering words, say something like, “Wow!! These grey hairs mean that I have lots of wisdom and these crows feet symbolize all the times I have laughed out loud!” I still catch myself from time to time sinking back to disempowering words, but I quickly adjust and use a positive affirmation instead. The bottom line is you can look at getting older as an asset or a liability. I choose to see it as the best thing that’s happened to me since sliced bread!! If we are going to age anyway, might as well age with grace and excellence!!